5 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Cheating - And What To Do About It
Have you ever had that gut wrenching feeling that something's
terribly wrong with your relationship? Do you suspect your boyfriend is
cheating? Can you tell the signs that your boyfriend is cheating?
Well, you don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to figure out whether your boyfriend is cheating, but you do have to be astute. Below are 5 signs your boyfriend is cheating - or may be.
Emotional Distance
All relationships start out hot and heavy. With time, they naturally cool down. This is to be expected. But when your boyfriend is with you, but not really "with you", you may wonder why.
He could be distracted because something is on his mind. He could just need his space. Ask yourself if he is normally a distant guy and is just being his usual self. If he is consistently distant, something is definitely up.
Lying About Small Things
Lying to your partner is a big no, no. Your relationship needs to be on solid footing in the trust department. Once your boyfriend starts lying to you, no matter how small the lie is, it erodes trust.
When he tells you he is going to be somewhere and is not - that's not a good sign. Of course, you don't want to go checking up on him, but if you call him on his cell phone and he lies and says he's one place and you later find out he's someplace else, it's cause for suspicion.
Personally, I hate liars. I can't deal with a man that lies to me - at all.
Sudden Changes In Schedule
Life happens. Schedules change. But once you get to know a person and their routine changes, pay attention. Maybe your boyfriend wants to impress his boss by working overtime.
That's possible. But then you need to have open communication with each other about it.
Super Privacy Phone Calls
Everyone needs their privacy. But if your boyfriend always has to leave the room to have private conversations, there's a problem. Also, if he quickly gets off the internet when you come into the room, beware.
Trust Your Instincts
In addition to paying attention to the above signs your boyfriend is cheating, you really have to trust your instincts. You can't know everything for certain until he either tells you, or you catch him in the act.
So What Do You Do?
First things first. Trust is the basis of all relationships. Without it, your relationship will not last. If your boyfriend has never given reason for you to distrust him, then give him the benefit of the doubt. Be honest with him about his change in behavior though.
Here's What Not to Do
1) Don't go rummaging through his pockets - ever. That's a huge boundary violation. He'll resent you.
2) Don't interrogate him (or his friends). It's okay to probe gently. Just know when to back off.
3) Don't spy on him. Stalking is a sign of mental instability.
4) Don't go ballistic.
5) Don't get hysterical.
In the end, infidelity comes to light. When it does, be prepared to end the relationship. In the meantime, continue to trust your man and trust that he will reveal his unhappiness in the relationship. Then do your best to work together to fix whatever the issue is.
Well, you don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to figure out whether your boyfriend is cheating, but you do have to be astute. Below are 5 signs your boyfriend is cheating - or may be.
Emotional Distance
All relationships start out hot and heavy. With time, they naturally cool down. This is to be expected. But when your boyfriend is with you, but not really "with you", you may wonder why.
He could be distracted because something is on his mind. He could just need his space. Ask yourself if he is normally a distant guy and is just being his usual self. If he is consistently distant, something is definitely up.
Lying About Small Things
Lying to your partner is a big no, no. Your relationship needs to be on solid footing in the trust department. Once your boyfriend starts lying to you, no matter how small the lie is, it erodes trust.
When he tells you he is going to be somewhere and is not - that's not a good sign. Of course, you don't want to go checking up on him, but if you call him on his cell phone and he lies and says he's one place and you later find out he's someplace else, it's cause for suspicion.
Personally, I hate liars. I can't deal with a man that lies to me - at all.
Life happens. Schedules change. But once you get to know a person and their routine changes, pay attention. Maybe your boyfriend wants to impress his boss by working overtime.
That's possible. But then you need to have open communication with each other about it.
Super Privacy Phone Calls
Everyone needs their privacy. But if your boyfriend always has to leave the room to have private conversations, there's a problem. Also, if he quickly gets off the internet when you come into the room, beware.
Trust Your Instincts
In addition to paying attention to the above signs your boyfriend is cheating, you really have to trust your instincts. You can't know everything for certain until he either tells you, or you catch him in the act.
So What Do You Do?
First things first. Trust is the basis of all relationships. Without it, your relationship will not last. If your boyfriend has never given reason for you to distrust him, then give him the benefit of the doubt. Be honest with him about his change in behavior though.
Here's What Not to Do
1) Don't go rummaging through his pockets - ever. That's a huge boundary violation. He'll resent you.
2) Don't interrogate him (or his friends). It's okay to probe gently. Just know when to back off.
3) Don't spy on him. Stalking is a sign of mental instability.
4) Don't go ballistic.
5) Don't get hysterical.
In the end, infidelity comes to light. When it does, be prepared to end the relationship. In the meantime, continue to trust your man and trust that he will reveal his unhappiness in the relationship. Then do your best to work together to fix whatever the issue is.
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